How do you Mourn?

[roxter]

Like Reeboks mom i had my 1st rottie Angel cremated when she passed 3yrs ago. I was utterly bereft of any emotion. Then i just sobbed for what seemed like ages. I find iit hugely comforting to have bought her home with me as it feels like she's still here. I will never forget her but having Sophie and Rocky helped immensely. It's never easy

[roxyno]

Sorry for your loss...It has been 8 years since my first Rottie died. To this day I still get teary eyed thinking of her. For me, the best way to get over the loss was to educate people on they joys of owning a Rott and telling stories about her.

[leachna]

“I too have that memory of laying on the floor at the vet's office, hugging Max as the vet administered the two drugs that would take him out of his pain. I didn't cry until it was over, so as not to distress him any further but boy, did I ever let loose then.”

Man I read this and part of me Jaan thinks maybe I made her last moments a scary experience?? And still another part is envious, because I lost it. I remember a friend you would let his dog (a retriever) run loose at night, he lived in the country. Well he was hit by a car and died, and when he buried him, my friend said “I almost lost it but didn’t”. I am just thinking with my fingers, why we do what we do???

My step dad passed away from cancer, I cried some but not as much as with our Duchess. Even a close friend died at the age of 54 earlier this year I cried more with his passing than with my step dad?? Now I do not want to think about the loss of my children or even my wife, place a straight jacket on me at that point. I know I dealt with JT and our dog more on a daily basis than with Bob. Maybe that is why there were more emotions???

I think it is interesting how we each mourn in our own way. There is no wrong way or right way, and there is no time limit. All we know is we miss them, they are not in our lives, they will always be in our memory, and thoughts. And I believe I will see them again. We all touch people’s lives just by passing through.

Kyzer’s Dad

[lovemypuppies]

I am so sorry to read about all these tragic losses. I have been away for awhile and was seldom able to check in at RDN. Because of no more PM"s may I say to Livertw--I am so shocked and sad that you lost Daisy. You have my deepest sympathy. It is nice to read that LBraxton has a new puppy. I will never forget her ordeal with Zoey. We are still blessed with both of our old doggies and my DH survived his illness. These heartbreaking stories remind us to focus on our loved ones every moment that we can.

[Mojave's Mom]

Originally Posted by leachna

My step dad passed away from cancer, I cried some but not as much as with our Duchess. Even a close friend died at the age of 54 earlier this year I cried more with his passing than with my step dad?? Now I do not want to think about the loss of my children or even my wife, place a straight jacket on me at that point. I know I dealt with JT and our dog more on a daily basis than with Bob. Maybe that is why there were more emotions???

Back in college, I remember clearly one of my classes in Psychology went into depth regarding death and loss- and how for some, the loss of a pet can be harder than the loss of a person. The reasoning was because pets truly love us unconditionally and pets don't judge us or see us in the same light as humans can/do...therefore, when we lose a pet, we lose the one "thing" in our life that didn't comprehend all of our wrongs.

There are no grudges.

[Jantea]

Originally Posted by Mojave's Mom

and how for some, the loss of a pet can be harder than the loss of a person.

When we lost Max 05/21/06, my husband and I cried so much and the pain tore our hearts apart. I remember being truly terrified of the pain, feeling it would surely destroy me. I do not consider myself to be a weak person and I knew how much I loved Max, but I was NOT prepared for the pain that consumed me. I truly felt I would die.

I was cooking dinner days later with sobs tearing from my throat and thought, it didn't hurt this bad when Dad died. I felt such guilt at this, as I truly loved and missed my dad. I thought for sure I must be a horrible person to be having these thoughts. But it's true, it was more difficult to get through the days after losing my heart dog.

What helped me? My husband, who would hold me while we both cried and hurt. We also got a pup last June, he's not Max, but I love him and yes, it helped. Later, just recently I made a digital scrap album of our doodlebug...I look at the pictures and can now smile through the tears........the pain will always be there. And you guys, who understand this pain also help.

[twomanydogs]

Forever. Everyday, every moment. For all lost.
Time takes you somewhere elsle, to someone else but for most, for life, the mouring never stops.
Love is endless. Life is.

[marianne]

How do you mourn?
Wanna share a "few"

Little Trouper 11/24/1999- 11/26/1999 Rottweiler
Von Hammerschmidt 11/05/1989- 03/03/2000 Rottweiler
Lady Lilly 07/06/2000- 12/21/2001 Bulldog
Watson 06/23/1998- 05/16/2002 Bulldog
Sadie Von Stolzenfels01/30/1990- 05/16/2002 Rottweiler
Gretchen 08/14/1992- 05/16/2002 Rottweiler
Bravo Boy 11/12/1994- 08/22/2002 Rottweiler
Bullwrinkle ??????????- 12/14/2002 Bulldog
Mariah ?????????- 08/22/2002 Rottweiler
Huntz 11/24/1999-07/15/2006 Rottweiler
Elsa 02/18/1994-02/14/2006 Rottweiler
Little Girl 08/19/2006-08/19/2006 Bulldog
Little Rascel 08/19/2006-08/19/2006 Bulldog
Sluggo 03/22/2006-02/11/2007 Bulldog
Kuper 01/01/2005-02/28/2007 Bulldog

Those were the dogs:

Larry 04/01/1938. 05/11/2002.......
My soulmate...........

MOURN.....HOW about scream.

Always remember the good times! Our loved ones who have left us will be with us forever in our hearts.

[lovemypuppies]

I guess the strength is within us but I can't imagine surviving these kinds of losses. My husband and I try everyday to prepare ourselves to lose one of our beloved dogs. I guess we will have to be strong for one another. Goodnight to Sluggo.

[Bocards]

I took a vacation....which was really good, since I was useless at work anyway. I tried to remember the good times and focus on Sugar not being in pain anymore....that helped the most...I just couldnt bear to watch her suffer. I kept reminding myself of that and I could stop myself from totally breaking down. My kids took it the worst, they cried for days. We have had a new rescue for over two years now, and while I love Sable dearly...she will never replace Sugar. Sometimes I still ache when I think about her, but she will never be forgotten....Time is really the only thing that helped me....but I appreciate this thread...just typing about her and reading it helps me.

Thanks,
Bo