Dreams

[missrock]

It's so wierd. I lost Rock three months ago. I can just now talk about him without crying. (But I do still cry when I write this or when I read a post by someone who has a dog with cancer.) Anyway...........I have now started dreaming about him a couple of times a week. It's really wierd..........In the dream, I'm searching and searching for him. He's not dead. I've just lost him and trying desperatly to find him, but can't!

I remember the good times and my husband and I now talk about crazy, funny things he did. I don't dwell on the negative, but the dreams really stink.

Getting on this forum has helped so much. This is the first time I've even had the guts to go the the "rainbow bridge" forum, let alone read any of it.

Thanks

[livertw]

Your subconscious is reminding you how much you miss Rock. Not that you NEED reminding. It does get better with time. I heard my little beagle snuffle during the night for many months after he died.

It is hard to read the Rainbow Bridge postings, but it is also comforting to know that we have all dealt with the loss of our beloved pets. Sharing your grief and telling us about Rock will help.

[TR Young]

Missrock, I am so sorry about your loss.
It goes without saying that it is never easy to lose a beloved pet. I know that I am not looking forward to the day that I have to let all my RDN friends know about Tara going to the bridge, but I know that I have a family here who will grieve with me, just as we are doing with you right now. We will be here, no matter how tough it gets for you. This particular forum is the place where we can all set aside our training opinions, Rottie behavior opinions, etc... and stand together to offer a shoulder to lean on.

[Karyn]

They do visit you. I got up to go to the bathroom Wednesday night/Thursday morning. As I came out of the bathroom my crazy rottie was blocking the door. I walked around him and went to the bed but Ooops! Winnie was sound asleep by the side of my bed!!!!!!! Crommie had come to let me know he was still close.

[Cheekie]

I lost my girl Cheyenne "cheekie" to cancer 2 months ago. Like you I have a hard time reading any posts here, let alone actually writing about my experiences. I lost two girls within a month of eachother and I am not ready. Last night I dreamed that my girl Cheyenne was with me. The dream was so real that it felt like I was awake and I played with my girl, cuddled and kissed her big wet nose a hundred times. Cheyenne has come to me in my dreams many times since she passed. I use to get really sad and wake up in tears, but now I feel like it is her way of reminding me that she is still very much with me and that she is OK. I enjoy my time with her in these dreams and it gives me a sense of peace to know that I can visit her this way until we meet at the bridge. I hope you find Rock in your dreams too.

[missrock]

I can't imagine losing two within a month of each other...........God bless you! Were they both older dogs? I have decided that in the future, I'm going to try to space the ages of my dogs to hopefully avoid that, though it is certainly no garantee. (Rock would have been seven the week after I lost him!) Thanks for the courage to come to this forum and respond. It really does help to hear from others. I was starting to think I was crazy or something.

[allimoosmom]

You are absolutely not crazy!!! We lost Bear 12/26/04. He had slept on my feet for about 5 years and I always had to move him a few times a night. I STILL dream that he is there (just about every night). Sometimes I'm in tears in the middle of the night 'cuz there is no Big Guy there to move. He also used to comfort me when I cried and I dream of him doing that, too. The loss is still so hard - but the 'dreams' and memories are really a comfort and a reminder that our Rotties are waiting at the Bridge for us to join them. God Bless!!!

[mrrsteelers]

For a couple nights after my first dog (Steeler) died, I swore I could hear him barking outside. I had to check it was so real but neither him nor any other dogs were out there.

[MissGomer]

Miss Rock,

So sorry for your loss. I know it must have been hard watching your friend suffer and then letting go. I too want to reassure you, you are in NO WAY crazy. You had a powerful bond with Rock, and one that not everyone in the world understands. We all do, here. I, for one, have no doubt that he can come to you in dreams. Thanks for sharing your experience here. I hope my Gomer comes to me in a dream sometime, lost him just 8 days ago and when anyone mentions him, it just sends me off to another place. My therapist (seeing someone for marital help and postpartum depression) wants to medicate me for my grief, to which I say - you just DON'T UNDERSTAND. I'm grateful that you and others here do.

Miss Gomer (Susan)

[lovemypuppies]

I dragged myself to this "scary" part of the forum because I was so concerned for LBraxton and Zoey...I feel so badly for you all. We adore our dogs with all our heart and soul so we understand how much pain you are experiencing. Eventually, you will focus more on the wonderful moments you had together--but that is cold comfort right now. I try to find a reason to smile (or laugh!) right before I sleep---I suspect that it helps me to have sweet dreams. And I wish sweet dreams to you.

[StephanieandToby]

You are not alone. I had "weird" Toby dreams as well....I was also searching for him.....in my dream I had tied him up outside of a Safeway (not that I would in real life... )...and he was stolen by street people.

I woke up sick and panicky. The dreams are hard.

It's been a year and a half and it DOES get better. I never thought it would...but it did. I hope it gets better for you, too!

[tilly]

missrock, i am very sorry about your dog.
it is very common to sense the presence of our dogs after they pass away. i remember so well how i woke up totally elated one morning, about a week after my bismarck died (he was my first rottie, 1984-1992). i had dreamt about him, and it seemed so real, i was convinced he was right there. the letdown from a dream like that is huge.
i also found myself "looking" for him for months afterwards.
it does get better though, in time.

[missrock]

Thanks all of you. You can't imagine how much this helps.

To Miss Gomer (Susan). I can't imagine your therapist wanting to medicate you when you lost your dog only eight days ago. Why do people want to just (medicate) everything away. If you don't experience the feelings now, they'll just come up later. Sounds like you're going through a lot and then to lose your beloved pet on top of it all. Best to you.

[gail pang]

I know the feeling all to well also. Yesterday marked the 6th
year of my Rufus parting this troubled world. Well, I felt his nose on my face Saturday
morning, which woke me up smiling and reaching out for him.
I sat there thinking about all the good times and a few of the rough ones also which
came another smile. My husband can't talk without getting misty so he
left so I could have my walk down memory lane. I will be getting another
rottie this winter, plus we plan to rescue an older one this fall. So yes they do visit.
I hear Bear snoring at least a couple time of weeks.

[Freddy5416]

Miss Rock,

Sorry for your loss. I lost my Freddy three weeks ago and dream about him every night. It is so hard losing something you love so much.