Just wanted to say hello

[valli's mom]

Its been 2 weeks now since I lost my beloved girl.The pain is still so deep.I miss her so much.I miss running my fingers through her fur,her sweet little baby kisses.I miss my bed buddy,her little shake a butt.My life is so empty without her.How long does this pain last?

[Judy Chrusch]

valli's mom, it takes time sweetie not to mention you had a horrible experience with everything you went through:( . I feel so bad for you.

As far as how long the pain lasts, it depends on the person and the situation but you need to take as much time as you need to grieve bc it's a natural part of life:(. Don't let anyone tell you that you should be over her bc it takes a long time. You will have your good days and bad and just focus on the joy you had having her in your life and knowing you did everything you could for her. You gave her the best and tried to do what you could but sometimes it isn't enough when it's time to go to the bridge. The comforting part of all this should be that she no longer suffers and she is at peace with all her friends at the bridge. I'm sure she met my Ceasar, and my Brutus will probably be her best friend and King my GSD will also be their for her.

So we must thank God for the time we have with our beloved pets and know that we always try to do our best:). She knew she was loved, that's all that matters! Please take care and know their are many of us here who understand and know your pain and as I said, you take as long as you need to feel what you're feeling, it's o.k. HUGS!!!

Judy

[Anne]

It is an awful pain you are going through. Valli is at peace now and you did what a loving mom would have done. She awaits you at the bridge. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[moondog]

Hi valli's mom,

When a special dog goes to the Bridge and we are left behind, we are left with such longing and sorrow :( . I sure don't know how long the pain lasts. The stronger the bond, the deeper the ache and I don't think we can ever really shake it completely. Little by little we can soften the blow and give our dogs a special place in our hearts, never to be forgotten.

Two weeks must seem like an eternity for you to be without her. Be kind to yourself and your sorrow will heal. Your sweet Valentine would want you to be happy, and you will be when the time is right. :)

Take care.

[Carina43]

Hi valli's mom...everybody has a different experience with grieving for a dog, so there's no right answer. I'm so sorry you lost your friend, but instead think of how much wonderful time you had with her, and how lucky you both were...let yourself grieve, but accept it as a natural part of life like Judy says.

I think if there's a reason we live longer than our dogs, it's to give us the opportunity to own and love more of them. :)
Take care of yourself, and know you did everything you could for Valentine, hugs.

[Bucky's Mom]

We all experience loss in a unique way - NO way is more correct than another - give in to your grief - let it wash over you - then let it go - remember the good times - hold your memories near - and smile when you think of how much you both meant to each other - I wish you peace - Lisa (Bucky's Mom)

[KatMc]

Valli's Mom,

I feel for you so much. The grief is a natural part of what we go through and there is no time frame for when is right. It's a totally personal expierence for each and every one of us.

Here is a site w/a poem on it that is pretty touching:

"I Remember"

Kathy

[Miabella]

I'm so sorry about Valli. I lost my girl last October, and for me the pain never really went away, it just became less constant. In the first month or so, it was always with me and I had a really hard time. But life goes on, whether you want it to or not, and daily concerns push it out of the front of your mind. It's been about 6 months now, and if I stop and dwell on it, it still brings me to tears. However, I can think of her now and remember the good things.

[rottlove]

Hi, Valli's mom, and thanks for checking in. When I lost my girl to hemolytic anemia it was the most painful thing of my adult life. It's been over a year and I am still recovering. Every day it gets a little better, I can feel it. The pain is manageable now, but I had some very dark months. The important thing is to not rush things. Enjoy the presence of your family and friends and most of all, the living dogs around you that will remind you of your lovely and happy Valli's soul and how much you gave each other. Remember all you did for her, and that she had the most wonderful life possible with you.

Other people around you might not understand your pain, especially non dog-people -- it's different from losing a human because of the absolute trusting innocence of a dog, and the responsibility you take for their life and ultimately, death. Dogs also become a part of you, so you lose a bit of yourself with them when they go. But she is waiting for you, and doesn't want you to be sad forever.

May the pain recede to a manageable level. I'm sure it will. And each day the darkness will lift a little further.

[Grendl]

When I lost my special Rottie to liver cancer, the grief/pain and feelings of loss remained fairly intense and constant for well over a year. Somewhere around the 18 month mark, I realized that my grief had diminished a good deal. I still miss that dog. It just takes time to learn to live with the loss. I feel for you, Valli.