Re: How do I recover from loss?

[rysyd1]

Hello,
My first post on the forum but not new to Rotts, ownership, and loss. To give a little history of me and my girls, I adopted my first girl, Ryleigh in 1997. She was a rescue that a friend of a friend brought to my front door. My family's vet, at that time, would not house her over night due to her mange/flees, "he" thought she would infect the rest of his kennel. Needless to say, Ms. Ry was my first dog. After being engaged, both my fiance and I wanted to save another Rotty. Sydney, was my first puppy...what a little ???? she was but loved her the same. I miss them both terribly, it came time to give them their final gift...their soul set free. Mass cell cancer took Syd in six months(6 yrs old), and my best friend Ryleigh one year later with Hemangiocarcomaaa?!(I have earned the right not to spell it). It has been two years later and I just came accoss a English lab that is two years old that needs to be rescued...his name is "Vader". He is an English lab, the principal at the humane society called to me to adopt him, I offered to foster him earlier this week. He was adopted with two acres to play...Not a bad week!

I hate to say it, but "Vader" made me think....

So how do I get past past the (angry, mad, pissed) feelings to adopt two more!

I misss my girls!

[moz205]

How wonderful that you take these dogs in. You've given them wonderfull lives. Of course, it's never long enough for us. I also miss all the ones before Buddy but he does take some of the sadness away when he starts with his kisses and oh those eyes get me every time he looks at me. It's so worth it. Believe me, I still think of Rommel daily and even call Buddy Rommel every so often. There's always room for more with me.

[smileygirl]

I don't think (IMO) you ever get "over" the loss. I think it evolves into many emotional changes. I have never been touched by a breed like I have with the rottweiler. I dread the day anything happens and though their life span is shorter than some...each day I wake to have them with me is a day I learn and grow fonder of them. If you enjoy their strengths and demeanor, I know I will always have a rotty from here forward. They make ME better and I love being with them. Thank you for taking the ones that are in need...your gift of a loving, responsible environment is given back many times over. They brighten any day...lightened your heart...and give you faith in purpose of what "living" should be...Tina

[chasetheface]

I agree with SmileyGirl....your emotions evolve regarding the loss of a loved one. At some point if your life and emotions allows it, you come to miss the relationship that you had and begin to consider opening up again to another. I think offering that loving relationship to another loving creature is one way to honor the ones you are missing. So sorry for your losses. Your dogs were lucky to have had you.

[DUTCHESS MOM]

I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS
I STILL HURT FOR MY SNOW THAT I HAD HER FOR 16 YEARS AND LOST HER TO CANCER DECEMBER 24, 2005. SHE WAS MY BABY AND I THINK ABOUT HER EVERY DAY. I DIDN'T THINK I COULD GET ANOTHER ANIMAL BUT I GOT TWO MORE A MALTESE(2YRS) AND A ROTTWEILER (WILL BE TWO IN APRIL),AND THEY GIVE ME SO MUCH LOVE AND ARE OLDEST DOBERMAN (8YRS) LOVES THEM TO BECAUSE WE LOST HER BUDDY MAY 8 2007 WHICH WAS VERY HEART BREAKING TWO SHE WAS A FAWN DOBERMAN WE GOT FROM THE SPCA AND SHE WAS SO UNIQUE ( HER NAME WAS RAGS). THE BEST THING I COULD HAVE DONE. I STILL CRY FOR MY SNOW AND RAGS AT TIMES AND THINK OF THEM DAILY. THE LOVE I GET FROM MY BABIES IS UNFORGETABLE.

DUTCHESS'S MOM

Originally Posted by rysyd1

Hello,
My first post on the forum but not new to Rotts, ownership, and loss. To give a little history of me and my girls, I adopted my first girl, Ryleigh in 1997. She was a rescue that a friend of a friend brought to my front door. My family's vet, at that time, would not house her over night due to her mange/flees, "he" thought she would infect the rest of his kennel. Needless to say, Ms. Ry was my first dog. After being engaged, both my fiance and I wanted to save another Rotty. Sydney, was my first puppy...what a little ???? she was but loved her the same. I miss them both terribly, it came time to give them their final gift...their soul set free. Mass cell cancer took Syd in six months(6 yrs old), and my best friend Ryleigh one year later with Hemangiocarcomaaa?!(I have earned the right not to spell it). It has been two years later and I just came accoss a English lab that is two years old that needs to be rescued...his name is "Vader". He is an English lab, the principal at the humane society called to me to adopt him, I offered to foster him earlier this week. He was adopted with two acres to play...Not a bad week!

I hate to say it, but "Vader" made me think....

So how do I get past past the (angry, mad, pissed) feelings to adopt two more!

I misss my girls!

[rysyd1]

Thank you all for your support. I know that I am not alone, I guess I just forgot how much I really miss having my dogs in my life...Vader reminded me of that. Thank you Tina, you are so right...

Originally Posted by smileygirl

I don't think (IMO) you ever get "over" the loss. I think it evolves into many emotional changes. I have never been touched by a breed like I have with the rottweiler. I dread the day anything happens and though their life span is shorter than some...each day I wake to have them with me is a day I learn and grow fonder of them. If you enjoy their strengths and demeanor, I know I will always have a rotty from here forward. They make ME better and I love being with them. Thank you for taking the ones that are in need...your gift of a loving, responsible environment is given back many times over. They brighten any day...lightened your heart...and give you faith in purpose of what "living" should be...Tina

I know I still want another Rotty in my heart, no question. Luckliy Vader was adopted, if he stayed with me for over a week he would of been part of my family! I am so happy he is with a family that needed him more. They lost a lab 8 months ago and their second lab was looking for a new friend.

[rysyd1]

Dutchess Mom--I am sorry to hear about Snow and Rags but happy to learn of your new found family. I lost Sydney on 12/23/05, an awful time of year as you know with Snow.

Ironic(avatar), but when I was a child my parents rescued a great dane named Dutchess from an I.U. franternity house...best dog they have ever owned! Congrats on your new K-9 family. I wish you all the best!

[SABELLESMOM]

It's always sad to lose a pet you love. What makes this sadder is their lives were so shortened. Sydney most likely was a BYB product. No fault of her own. Ryleigh was a toss away pet. Probably, no one cared much until she got to the rescue. You gave them both a chance at life! Bless you!

Think of it this way, You had it in you to love and provide them with a comfortable home, care and regular meals. I'm sure they had every advantage thru you! Thank you for doing that for them. Your heart may ache, but you know you did the right thing, don't you?

We adopted a lovely little Cocker Spaniel. He was quite apparently a purebred dog. He was 1/2" too short for show, and our theory is, perhaps, why he ended up without a home. He was quite young, under a year. We estimated a birthday of Feb. 14th for him. We were lucky! He will be 17 this year! Still running like a pup despite an ACL reapair at age 11. Other signs of age are becoming evident. He has given us many laughs and a great deal of loyalty. He has a depth of personality. He will be much missed whe he dies.

[rysyd1]

Thank you...and I do. Syd was A.K.A. registered(which may not mean much but I can list her kin on the cert.). As for Ms. Ry, who knows, but she was undoubtedly the most loyal dog I have ever owned, period! Ms. Syd, I loved the same but she was such a little ????. I would take both again.