Will your rottie greet you if he/she is eating?

[moondog]

Originally Posted by Janus'sMom

As far as the kid goes, he doesn't listen. Janus listens more than he does.

Does the "kid" like the dog? How old is the "kid"? If he's old enough to comprehend illness or injury and he LIKES the dog, then you'd be better off appealing to his sense of compassion and ability to relate to illness/injury than just telling him "no" and taking his toys away. Just saying "no" doesn't give him the information he needs to decide for himself not to do it. Does the "kid" have a name?

[Janus'sMom]

LOL, sorry, his name is Demetrius. He's only 3yrs old. I'm not sure if he likes Janus or not, but I think he does, cause he keeps running around the livingroom trying to get Janus to play with him (but only ends up getting knocked over), but he's been having some real issues lately. He's been biting, kicking, scratching, throwing things all over the house, stabbing me with a fork, throwing heavier and bigger toys at ME and sometimes Janus, ect. And yes, he's been kicking poor Janus when he walks by the puppy. It doesn't matter what I ask or tell him to do, he doesn't listen and throws tantrums. He doesn't throw his tantrums when his father is home though, so I don't know if he's doing this to keep his father from going to work. No he isn't my son otherwise this would not be happening. Every time I try to disipline him or scold him, his father gets upset with me. I don't think I'll be living with my boyfriend and his son for much longer if things don't change quickly! I WILL NOT TOLLERATE THE ABUSE OF A 3YR OLD CHILD TOWARDS MYSELF OR MY PUPPY!!! And some may not agree with me on this, but I will choose Janus over my boyfriend and his son, and I will not hessitate to leave if this behavior continues. As stated before on this thread, I have no help from the boyfriend and his son is out of control. I try my hardest to keep Janus under control on leash during the day (short from keeping him locked in his cage :( or outside unattended) but my boyfriend keeps telling me that Janus needs to "shape up or ship out", he's expecting Janus to act like a seasoned adult dog, not a 4 month old puppy.

[Inga]

If my dogs were eating and I came in they would run up to me for a quick hello and then quickly run back to there food. Just enough loyalty to say hi but not hang around. LOL

[moondog]

Originally Posted by Janus'sMom

LOL, sorry, his name is Demetrius. He's only 3yrs old.

Cute name. At 3, he's going through a hard time finding himself stuck with someone who doesn't want to be his mother. He needs a mother.

Originally Posted by Janus'sMom

...he's expecting Janus to act like a seasoned adult dog, not a 4 month old puppy.

I hate to say it, but this is the kiss of death in a relationship. Each of you are using the helpless ones in your care against the other. Nothing good can come of it and it likely has something to do with Demetrius' attitude towards Janus. A dog should be a boy's best friend, not his adversary.

Please don't take offense....I've been around the block a few (thousand) times, and this is just what I see in what you've said.

[Janus'sMom]

I understand that you're not saying this to offend me. As I see this as a problem also. But I am in here trying to find help to help keep better control of Janus. Unfortunately I've had to tell my boyfriend last night when he called to check up to see how his son was behaving, I had to tell him if he didn't find help soon that I was leaving. He uses the excuse that "he's a child, it's normal". I'm sorry, but I don't find this normal for D to be biting me! kicking me! and throwing toy cars at me! in one nite after stabbing me with a fork! And if he's not willing to get help for his son, regardless of Janus, I'm leaving, I'm tired of being abused by a 3yr old. And its not that I don't want to be a mother figure in his life. But this behavior from D has been going on for 3 months. Every time he comes back from visiting his mother it gets worse.

I'm sorry, but this is severly off topic. (sheepish grin) If you want to continue talking about this or have any idea on what I can try to resolve these issues, feel free to email me.

[alessadry]

Originally Posted by Janus'sMom

Janus is working really well with "Give" and "Leave it" and "Out of there" (when he's in the laundry room/trash room/cat food room and when he's in the corner where the cockateils are. My main issue now is the kid getting up in the middle of the night and letting Janus out of his cage or putting small toys (lil soldiers) threw the bars and into the cage. So far the cat hasn't tried drinking or eating out of Janus's bowls, so I don't think I'll have a problem of him guarding his bowls from the cat.
Does anyone else have a cat that likes eating and drinking out of the dog food bowls? My last cat and dog use to fight over this issue, but then be best friends for the rest of the time.

My cats only drink from my dog's bowl lately. However, I think I found a reasonable explanation. Since dogs drink much more than cats the bowl is filled more frequently with fresh water, versus the cat's bowls are filled just once a day. Pretty smart cats I have!

[observer]

The poor kid's behavior is not normal-- natural mom is not helping at all either, looks like. It happens a lot.... so sad. If you really want the relationship with his dad, and D, to work, I'd get some professional help for the three of you (you, boyfriend, and D) to learn some techniques to get through this problem of his acting out. As far as Janus is concerned, can you put the crate in your office and put a latch up high on the door to keep D out?

[emtt]

Yes, my male will stop wag his tail (what he has of one : ) ), lick you a few times, the return to his food.

[Janus'sMom]

Well I'm going to be moving out at the end of this month. D is still at his moms till this Sunday. So I'm not going to stress over it anymore. There's more problems with my boyfriend than just his son acting up. So it's time for me to tuck tail and pack up my pup and computer for a while. I'll try to check in once a week to let you guys now how things are going once I move out with Janus. :)