Roxie Likes Him Better!!!

[rebelmark]

Roxie probably is sick of you messing with her and trying all the weird things they try to teach you on here; your husband probably treats her like a dog and she likes that better.

[jenna21]

this is an identical prob for me and my bf...oscar loves my bf and allows him to fuss over him where as he doesn't like me stroking or fussing over him, yet im the one who is home wih him all the time i also train and feed him . It does make me sad as oscar is my dog (a birthday present) and i was the one who insisted on having a rottie as i had one previously yet he seems to have a special bond with my bf.

[sebastianvoneli]

My trainer taught me something interesting, my dog is the same way, it seems my dog percieves that my husband has set me up for failure because in some way my husband wants the dog to like him better. / eg.... If I'm scolding the dog my husband has to sit there and tell me my voice is too high or I'm not mean enough or whatever./ It's a guy thing.

I did learn that I dont correct for a long enough period of time. If my scolding only takes 2 seconds the dog figures why not do it again. I dont have time to scold for 10 minutes. The biggest thing is you need control now because after the dog hits 100+ lbs you have a problem. It does not mean the dog does not like you it means he just chooses not to listen to you.

[xenabuster]

Originally Posted by sebastianvoneli

My trainer taught me something interesting, my dog is the same way, it seems my dog percieves that my husband has set me up for failure because in some way my husband wants the dog to like him better. / eg.... If I'm scolding the dog my husband has to sit there and tell me my voice is too high or I'm not mean enough or whatever./ It's a guy thing.

I did learn that I dont correct for a long enough period of time. If my scolding only takes 2 seconds the dog figures why not do it again. I dont have time to scold for 10 minutes. The biggest thing is you need control now because after the dog hits 100+ lbs you have a problem. It does not mean the dog does not like you it means he just chooses not to listen to you.

its not that he doesnt listen to me beacause he does its just that he like to follow him gives him more kisses and stuff like that i know im being silly i think ill jst have to live with it

[sebastianvoneli]

That reply was meant for the original post. My dog listens to me also, but only if I have a treat in hand!!!LOL

[debbiej]

this is a very interesting post.

I have a few observations to make. first of all, I agree. your dog sees you all day, hears you all day. I just bet if you crate or kennel her for part of the day and have a specific training time, you will get better attention. seems like a small thing, but dogs put some value on just being loose in the house doing what ever they may choose.

Also, try to not talk and pet the dog a lot. even though she is not really misbehaving, she should always do something to gain the reward of your attention.

We women are talkers, dogs aren't.

I also think that, as you said, she is a flirt. I think Hilda reacts differently to my husband than to me. in my case, she is a softie and I have been the one to train her. She respects me, but adores him.

[SuziHeaton]

Okay, don't laugh at me. I'm the mother of two young children, and honestly, Roxie reminds me of them!

I'm not a stay at home mom, but when I am home (taking time off, etc.), the kids misbehave with me. As soon as Daddy comes home, it's like their hero has walked through the door!

Again, don't laugh at me, but I can't help but to relate Roxie to children. For instance, do you give her more flexibility than you realize during the day? I know with Sadie I've had days when I wasn't as firm as I needed to be, and it led to a lack of respect for me. Additionally, there have been days when I should have crated her for a period of time, but instead we both just got on each other's nerves when we really needed a time out! On such days, DH's arrival was a breath of fresh air for Sadie, who ran to him and obeyed him immediately upon arrival!

I agree with with the others who've advised you to monitor your husband's interactions with Roxie. But, I'd also encourage you to examine your daily routine and see if there are any gaps in your training, etc.

Good luck!!!!! Your post made me laugh--keep us posted!!!!

Suz

[newbrunswick]

In our house - we are both women, so its interesting that its not a male/female thing, just a difference in how your go about your commands. Maggie will listen to me when it comes to things like sit, down, come, out. She will sometimes listen to my gf sometimes not. I noticed that my gf will not always follow thru - I tell her that if she gives a command, she needs to make sure the command is followed. I think she feels silly using hand signals so she doesn't use them ever (unless I'm standing there telling her that she has to get it right ) - so, Maggie looks to me for information - what am I supposed to do right now - but looks to my gf for lovie lovies. I would never let Maggie up in my face licking me (she will however sneak a lick in if I'm vulnerable - its like she can't help herself ), however, she will get right up on my gfs lap and lick her all over the face. So, I think you have to decide for yourself how you want to train your dog. I make training fun - I change it up too so its not the same old boring thing everyday. When I'm giving a command, I lower my voice, square my shoulders, stand tall. It's not even being loud, just knowing that she is going to do what I tell her to do - its not even an option in my mind, so when I tell her something, she knows I don't take no guff! Also, if she's ever done something bad - I don't tell her to come and then scold her - I just realize that I've missed an opportunity to avoid her doing something I don't want her to do. By the way, when you all come home together from going somewhere, who goes thru the door in what order? Its little things like letting the dog in the house before you that makes you lower on the totem pole. When I start looking at the little things, thats usually where I see where the problems are stemming from.

[sannwood]

If you've ever watched The Dog Whisperer, you will realize that what your husband is doing (the grabbing of the muzzle) certainly does relate to the "goings on" inside a pack mentality. You and your husband are her pack. Does your dog lick your husbands face, too? If so, that is pack mentality as well. Pack dogs will show submission to the alpha dog by licking their muzzle (and sometimes even tinkling, too.) All signs of submission.

What I learned is this. . .a good distraction or correction for your dog is to mimic a bite from another dog. Dogs understand this even though, to us, it may seem silly. An open hand (like a claw) with fingers stiff, to the back of the neck or hind quarters will bring your dog to attention. Not a grab and hold, though. A quick touch or sharp tap will do - like a bite would be.

My Nadja does the same thing with my boyfriend. But I'm glad she doesn't do this to me. When he comes home, it's chaos. She's soooo excited and submissive to him (she's currently a submissive tinkler). She relates "play time" to my boyfriend. When she sees him, she instantly goes into play mode. I'm trying to break this habit and want my boyfriend to relax with the rough housing and exhibit calmness around her. He can't help himself, he loves her so much, so I'm not winning the battle right now.