My Buddy (i adopted him when he was nine months old; he was COMPLETELY unsocialized - had been left outside on a leash, his collar had grown into his neck) is fear aggressive. I am working with a trainer who pretty much said the same thing that yours did, except didn't suggest that I return him. Of course, for me and Buddy, returning him is not really an option. I am completely in love with this dog, and I can't imagine anyone working with him or being more dedicated to him than I am.

I've had Buddy for six months. He is still fear aggressive, although MUCH better. I still have to constantly watch him around anyone or any new situation. I don't (I can't) allow him in the same room with anyone who is slightly fearful of dogs. However, he is wonderful around people who take the time to meet him and follow my instructions. It is definitely a marginalized existence for both of us, and I still have hope that he will get better. My other dog, Soapie, used to be afraid of everyone, although she was never fear-aggressive, she would just try to run away, and now she is very friendly to anyone I introduce her to.
Buddy is my third dog. he is a rottweiler lab mix.
I guess my point is that it is not hopeless, but realistically, it is very very very difficult. I don't know that I could handle it if Buddy were my first dog.

Good luck with whatever you decide.



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I love my furry kids!
Soapie and Buddy's Mom