Hi Wally -
Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds like you've got some power struggles going on over there.
Your puppy is just that....a puppy quickly leaving his babyhood behind. I sense he is feeling frustrated with your uncertainty and frequent demands. You need to relax a little and enjoy this time with your puppy.
You can start by taking him out to see the world and show him what a fun place it can be. Don't worry about him being perfect....there is a time for training and a time to relax and enjoy each other. Take him to the park and play with him. Bring along a tug and a ball. Do this everyday. Make sure he gets plenty of exercise, everyday. Bring a long line with you and clip it on if you do not have good recall with him yet. Never call him to you to punish him. If he doesn't come right away, that's what the long line is for....wheel him in and praise him. Be fair and he will respect you.
Also, I wouldn't have three people feeding him out of their hands to teach him a lesson. If you feel you must make him eat the first bite out of your hand then so be it, but then leave him alone to finish the rest of his meal. Keep the little one away from him when he is chewing or eating. Respect his space.
Keep him in weekly classes. At home, break up his training into 2 or 3 quick sessions per day (no more than a couple minutes each). If he fails something, patiently go back to the previous step. Build on small successes. Make it fun and really get excited when he gets it right.
I know there is alot of info out there but take it one step at a time, on incident at a time. I think he may be acting out due to mixed signals and frustration.
Good Luck!
